The 5 Signs You’re Dealing With a High-Conflict Opponent (Not Just a Difficult One)

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I just watched Rebecca Zung break this down, and it hit hard because I am living it. Since 2024, while a lying small town advocate has been non-stop smearing me in South Dakota.

If you’ve been in court, dealing with an ex, custody stuff, or any high-stakes fight where nothing makes sense and the other side seems to thrive on chaos, this is for you. There’s a massive difference between a normal difficult person and a true high-conflict personality. One you can negotiate with. The other? You’re not even playing the same game.

Here’s what she laid out — the 5 clear signs, straight from the video, in plain language.

1. The Goalposts Keep Moving

A difficult person has a real position. You can meet it, negotiate around it, and eventually land somewhere. A high-conflict person? The second you get close to what they said they wanted, it shifts. You accommodate one demand, and suddenly it’s not enough or it never was. It’s not about resolution — it’s about keeping the fight alive. If you’ve checked off their list and they’re still raging, this is your sign.

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2. Unrelated Accusations and Smear Campaigns

Normal arguments stay on topic. High-conflict ones explode in every direction. They throw out random accusations that have nothing to do with the actual dispute. You try to talk about the schedule or the money, and suddenly you’re defending yourself against wild claims that came out of nowhere. It’s designed to keep you defensive and off-balance so you never get to the real issues.

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3. Recruiting Third Parties (Flying Monkeys)

They don’t fight alone. They pull in family, friends, neighbors, therapists — anyone they can weaponize. Mutual people get dragged in. Kids get used as messengers. It’s triangulation on steroids. If you’re suddenly having to explain yourself to people who shouldn’t even be involved, you’re not dealing with just a difficult opponent. This is a campaign.

4. The Record Contradicts Itself

They say one thing, then deny it later. Emails, texts, court filings — it all falls apart when you line it up. A difficult person might be stubborn, but a high-conflict one creates contradictory narratives on purpose because truth doesn’t matter. The chaos is the point.

5. Escalation Is Their Default Setting

Every time you try to de-escalate or offer a fair deal, they ramp it up. Logic, evidence, reason — none of it lands. They punish, control, and feed off the conflict. If “reasonable” responses make things worse, stop using regular playbooks.

Why This Matters (And What to Do)

If you’re using normal strategies on someone who’s not playing normal, you’re going to lose ground. Document everything in real time. Stop trying to convince or appeal to their “better side” — it doesn’t exist in these situations.

Focus on leverage, boundaries, and protecting what’s yours. In my case, what’s mine is my right to blog about policy – even if it hurts my opponents profit margins – and lobby lawmakers as I see fit. Patients aren’t profit targets. They’re human beings who deserve federal protections.

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The opposing side has been trying to cancel my ability to talk about federal exemption needs for state patients, because the other side argued federal exemption hurts their dispensary profit interests.

Didn’t know sick people were supposed to pay for a mortgage when we legalized medical cannabis. Advocates claimed this would all be without profits and just helping the sick. Turns out that wasn’t true for everyone.

This video was a solid reminder that not every fight is the same. Some people just want to burn it all down.

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That’s what lawsuits are for. To protect community, free speech, and truth. Tell it to the judge, but know your opponent. If they hate everyone, and can’t reach a resolution, and they’re (opinion incoming) a money obsessed terrorist of vulnerable people in the wild? Deal with them carefully, and document everything for the judge.

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